Having Sex on the First Date – Is it Really Possible?

The idea of having sex on the first date is, of course, on everyone’s mind.  Almost every single man longs for sex on the first date, even if he’s fighting the thought.  Almost every woman entertains the prospect of sex on the first date, even if it’s just a private fantasy.  In reality though, most romances don’t heat up until the third, fourth, or fifth date.  Some women may keep men waiting for months on end!  Some men (particularly Christians) do the unthinkable and keep their women waiting as well.

Why the Resistance?

For some people, sex cannot happen until the wedding day.  For others, sex happens as soon as there is a physical attraction and strong mental connection shared.  One thing is for sure: it’s not easy to score on a first date.  The majority of women you meet (that aren’t advertising escort services on Craigslist) are opposed to sleeping with a man on the first date.  Why?
First and foremost, there is a lack of trust involved.  Spending the night with someone means putting your full trust in someone; that he is not dangerous or violent, that he is not a “player”, and that he is probably “clean” as far as diseases go.  (Remember not all condom usage is 100% safe against STDs)
Meeting someone for the first time can lead to an intense attraction, but one great night doesn’t necessarily give a woman the trust or the comfort she needs to enjoy herself sexually.  A woman must feel totally at ease if she wants to have sex; otherwise, it will be a miserable experience for both lovers.  Secondly, a woman does not want to give her new date “everything” he wants right away; doing so might make her seem “easy” and give the man less reason to see her for a second date.  The general idea is keep him interested by denying him sex…and then hope he falls in love with you.  Sex is a reward of the commitment to come.

The Best Approach

Is it possible to have sex on the first date?  Yes, though guys (and girls) who blatantly push for such high hopes can alienate or annoy the other person.  In order to increase your odds of scoring on the first date, it’s best to take your date to a non-traditional dating venue.  Think of locales that don’t feel like “dates”, but instead cause a rush of adrenaline.  Instead of asking for first date sex, the logical thing to do is to establish a comfortable rapport, and to lead it gently into the man or woman’s house.  (A woman usually feels more comfortable on her home field)  Use an innocent excuse to draw the other mate inside and then talk about passionate things, personal things, etc.
Another aspect of first date sex is online dating.  When you chat with a person online you can accelerate the natural course of dating times ten.  Within a dozen or so late night chats, you can make a person feel an intense attraction mentally and emotionally.  When the two people finally do meet in person, (which could be several months after an introduction), and if there is still physical attraction, then “first date” sex is not as much of a gamble.
Online chats are mini-dates in a way.  Whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship as soon as possible, or a casual encounter to remember, online dating brings you the best of both worlds.  Have ten times the dates in half the time!  Just don’t try any “virtual grabs” too early…nothing’s creepier than trying to cyber on the first chat.